Boost Your Libido: Tips and Tricks to Rekindle Sexual Desire

Loss of sexual desire? Low libido for some time? Don't panic, it can happen to anyone! It is completely normal to experience variations in sexual appetite. Here are some tips to help you effectively stimulate your love desire.

What you need to know about libido

Libido is a way of describing sexual desire in humans. In Latin, this term literally means "desire". A source of questions, it fluctuates throughout life, but also from one person to another. It is also influenced by many factors that are not always related to the sexual sphere strictly speaking. It should not be confused with biological instinct (or survival instinct), which can be called sexual urges and which leads most people to seek sexual activity for the unconscious purpose of reproduction.

Factors that influence the need for intimacy, regardless of a person's gender or sexual orientation, include:

• Biological aspects, especially hormonal production which has a considerable impact on the power of intimate desire.
• Psychological elements: stress, sadness, overwork can alter the desire to make love by monopolizing the person's psychological resources.
• Life experiences, especially those directly related to sexuality or relationships.
• The cultural and social norms that allow each person to form a vision of sexuality, how it is expressed and the expectations it is supposed to satisfy.

In any case, human sexuality is as vast as it is diverse and some people may not feel any or very little libido, that is to say sexual attraction, without this being abnormal. Everyone has their own relationship to these things!

What to do to improve your libido?

While some people live very well with little sexual desire, others are eager to improve their libido. To do this, it is interesting to play on the different factors that influence it.

Acting on the physical aspects of sexual desire

The regulation of sexual desire is largely controlled by hormones secreted by the body, particularly testosterone and estrogen. A person who has low levels of these hormones (depending on their gender) may have a low libido. Research into male sexuality has led to the marketing of drugs to improve erections. But when it comes to people with vaginas, few studies have looked at this issue. In addition, hormonal treatments are not suitable for everyone because of their potential side effects.

In people with vaginas, the clitoris plays a central role in sexual arousal. Just like the penis, increased blood flow to the clitoris leads to its erection and increased sensitivity, which leads to sexual pleasure. In the event of loss of clitoral sensitivity, it is possible to use products to be applied locally, such as orgasmic gels, to increase the blood supply to the clitoris. Our natural stimulating gel is specifically designed to stimulate the clitoris. Some massage oils are also perfect for creating an erotic atmosphere, conducive to sexual arousal, and can be applied by you or your partner all over the body and even in the intimate area for external use.

Do things that help you feel good about yourself!

When discussing libido issues, the importance of lifestyle and psychological well-being are often the central topics of discussion. It is indeed complicated to feel desire and to feel desired when you are not comfortable in your own skin. Thus, it is essential to set up activities that help you feel good. Sport, meditation and yoga are your allies. It is also very important to fight against stress and to keep time for yourself, to preserve your psychological comfort.

Sexual desire is, in fact, closely linked to our emotional state, just like the relationships we have with our partner. It is therefore essential to share intimate moments to maintain emotional bonds and closeness. Many couples simply no longer make love because they no longer feel close enough, and this can be due to several factors. Establishing frank and open communication with your partner is crucial when you are in a relationship, to strengthen the emotional connection and boost each person's libido.

And if the loss of sexual desire affects your daily life, you can also consult a mental health professional, such as a sexologist, to understand what is causing it and find solutions to this problem.

Try new things in bed!

Routine is a factor that often contributes to the erosion of passion in a couple and therefore to a loss of sexual desire. Exploring new things on an intimate level can help increase libido in both women and men:

• Try new sexual positions: you will have no trouble finding advice on the internet (as long as it is from trusted or recognized sources) or in sex guides like the famous Kamasutra to vary the positions and discover new sources of pleasure.
• Share your fantasies with your partner: just talking about them can create mutual excitement. And why not act them out if both of you are comfortable with this exercise?
• Use erotic toys and accessories during your lovemaking: they will help you discover new sensations and shake up the usual rules of your sexual relations.
• Set up role-playing games: by slipping into the shoes of another character or showing another side of yourself, you introduce something new into your relationship which will allow you to reveal and satisfy your hidden desires.
• Have sex in unusual places: There's more to life than just the bed! Just changing location, whether it's going to another room in the house, booking a romantic weekend away, or venturing out to a public place (while maintaining modesty, of course!) can greatly increase sexual arousal.
• Try erotic reading and films: Are you stuck for ideas or do you need a little warm-up before taking action? There's nothing like erotic fiction to give you an irrepressible urge to make love!

Ultimately, there is no point in looking for often ineffective grandmother's tips or scouring pharmacies to regain sexual desire. The important thing is to open your mind and communicate with your partner, while not being afraid to get out of the routine. The main thing is to be able to trust the other. And if you suffer from psychological or emotional blockages, do not hesitate to call on a health professional!